Jack
What once was is no more
For those that are newer to Couchsurfing, this may serve as some enlightenment. Anyone who used it a decade ago probably no longer does, and will only nod at the points I'm about to make. Courchsurfing started as a weird idea that actually blossomed into an amazing community. I made close friends, and even met a significant other, through Couchsurfing. It was a group of people who loved to travel just slightly more than they liked helping others. Just awesome, awesome people. When it first started. Then one day the founder said to everyone, "Thanks for your thousands upon thousands of hours of volunteer work - I'm now monetizing the site and changing everything you loved about it. I will not be sharing any of this income with the people who worked to build this from the ground-up, rather, I will take the money gladly and see how much more I can make." This upset a lot of people, as you might expect. The people who were truly interested in travel and helping others more fully embraced sites like BeWelcome and HospitalityExchange. But it got worse. The media was pumping Couchsurfing, and people started spinning it - it wasn't a place to meet fellow travelers and help each other save on costs, it became a place where deviants went to hook up with people. Meetups, which were normally reserved for long-time community members seeking to welcome newer members, became full on degenerate parties. New members to Couchsurfing were all about what they could get out of it, rather than what they could give, because it was advertised over and over and over as a place to find free accommodations. And then some really disgusting things started happening, and it actually started where the whole mess began, in San Francisco. People started denying guests on the basis of gender, and wouldn't host someone unless they would have sex with the host. At this point, the authorities probably should have stepped in, but Casey (the founder) was still spewing a bunch of PR garbage that newbies and the world at large were buying. So it continued. The last experience I ever had with this site was hosting a girl for a couple nights. Well, I had agreed to a couple nights. Then she wanted to live there temporarily while she did some interviews and started a new job. Not really what it's for, but I agreed to help. She, apparently, was so thankful, she showered the next night and came out from the bathroom wearing very little. Being a single guy living in a small town, some consensual activities may have ensued, but nothing could have made up for the next night, when she started acting flat out weird and rude to me. So much so, that I very clearly asked her, "So, the plan is still that you're leaving tomorrow, right?" Now she started yelling at me, rather than answer the question. Quickly, she crossed a line with me in regards to respect, and I said I could ask her to leave if she wished to continue in that manner. Rather than apologize, she started screaming about how she had nowhere else to go - not really my problem, and if that was the case, maybe a little more gratitude and respect were in order. But no, now she was flying off the handle about how mean I was for considering putting her out. Name calling came next, and soon, all I wanted was to go to bed in peace in my own home, and she wasn't allowing for that, so I told her to leave. She refused. I mean, here is a stranger in someone else's home throwing a tantrum like I've never seen from toddler, and she is flat-out refusing to leave my home. THAT started getting a bit hectic. I started dialing the police before she finally stood up, screamed at me some more, and pretended to grab a bag. Not good enough. I told her she had 10 minutes to vacate my home, or I'd have her arrested. She finally left about 15 minutes later. So when I went to report this to Couchsurfing, what do you think I found? My profile had been deleted - apparently she had contacted them first and told them goodness knows what. Rather than even touch base with me about the incident, they deleted my profile. That was it, no investigation. So there's still some lunatic out there on the site they don't want to bother because they'll believe any lie you tell them if you tell it first. After 10 years on the site, that was the end of that. NEVER AGAIN will I support Couchsurfing in any way, shape, or form. What could have been such an amazing thing has been turned into a "community" of jerks out for personal gain in terms of sex, money, and control. It's a disgusting site.



