VIDA SelectReviews of vidaselect.com

They promise a whole innovative approach to it and that you'll get a lot more matches and dates because of their approach, but I didn't really notice *any* improvement compared to what I could do myself. The dates they got for me were very subpar.

Vida Select over promised, and significantly under delivered both on execution and results. You be the judge, here’s my accurate experience with their service. During the initial and then onboarding phone calls used to create my profile, I was assured they would have no problem finding me appropriate matches within the 3 month service contract. They said matches would be attracted because I offered what many women wanted and lived near Boston. In brief: I’m a truly nice and kind man on all levels who is emotionally available, am financially secure, own a nice home in a nice town near Boston, (Belmont), reasonable looking (“he’s cute”), in good shape (5’9” 166lbs, bike 40 miles), Ivy grad and undergrad, and looking for a good mutual match. The reason I hired Vida is because I was not able to find a good long term mutual match, and who was also physically available to significantly travel. I want to explore North American parks and other interesting places in my comfortable new Airstream Trade Wind 25FBT. A match would enjoy this adventurous travel including riding our E-bikes, hiking, and enjoying the outdoors together, in comfort. Based on these assurances, I paid Vida in early November, immediately provided all information requested, but my profiles did not go live for over two months! Vida’s selection of womens’ profiles to “like” frequently completely ignored both my and their preferences. Vida would occasionally make up false interests or activities which basically lied to women, (via my account so lying Using My Name)! Even Match.com at one point suspended my account due to suspicious behavior. At Vida’s recommendation, I then searched for good mutual matches and sent Vida a screenshot of women to contact, but they would either delay many days or not contact them at all. The result is None of the women were interested in this type of adventurous travel. Finding a mutual match was the entire objective of hiring this service! So six (6) months after hiring Vida I have not met a single woman with the common interests promised by Vida. Multiple emails to Vida have yielded no response.

I want to do my best to write a review that hopefully helps others who are looking into this service and deciding if it is right for them. My aim is not to write a negative review for the sole purpose of bashing VIDA. With that in mind, let’s begin. Before we get into the positives and negatives, I would first like to start off by saying that at the time of using this service, I was in my mid to late twenties. I believe that is imperative to my experience, so please keep that in mind. I will get into it later, but I believe if you are older, you will have a different experience. Okay, now with that out of the way, let’s go into what VIDA pitched to me. On the first outreach call, I had a very pleasant chat with what I assumed was a salesman of some sort, who asked for some basic info and answered my questions. I did ask if my age would be an issue, and he assured me it would not be. After that, I came to this site to read reviews, and one struck out to me, talking about how they manage your dating apps. That struck me as odd, since that is not the traditional avenue for matchmakers, so I went and asked the salesperson about it. He confirmed that was the case, saying I should expect 60% dating app management and 40% traditional database matchmaking. In the end, that was closer to 95% dating app management and 5% traditional database matchmaking, but I will speak on that later. Next, I signed up and had my screening call with the matchmaker. I think she had thoughtful questions and did her job well. I went out of my way to ask if my filters would prohibit me or be too narrow for any database matches, and she assured me that I would be okay. Next, they helped me create some new profile pictures, which seemed edited by AI, but were not too bad honestly, and created my dating profiles. They also heavily suggested I buy the premium version, which is no small fee, basically adding another 8–10% to the cost. Now, to the results. In one month’s time, they managed to get me two phone numbers of girls from dating apps and only ONE potential database match, and that was AFTER I had to expand my age range by two years. Now, they do say 1–3 matches, so technically speaking, they somewhat delivered. However, I, on my own accord, could have gotten those matches from the dating apps easily. What I can’t believe is how little prospective database hits I got. They even said “quote-unquote” the main limiting factor was my age range. What I was so disappointed about is that on all accounts I was assured my age would not be an issue, and it wound up being an issue. The biggest problem is that this was more of a dating app management service rather than matchmaking. I cannot imagine any guy in my age range who is so busy that they can’t use dating apps on their own time, especially for the price point. I think if you are in your 30s, this will be better, especially if you don’t use dating apps often. However, if you are below 30, I just can’t recommend this service. (Side note: I was also in their most populated region in the US (NYC area), so if you are not there, it will be even rougher.) Lastly, some positives and negatives: Positives: Everyone was super kind and helpful. The pictures they made for me were useful. Negatives: The service itself. I hope you find this review helpful and use it to make an informed decision.

-one star as net experience was troubling, at times felt unethical, poor communication between customer and "writing team". But let's start w/ the positive first: - profile development - 5 stars - well written and I thought really captured the range of my personality -pix selection - very helpful to have their g-lines, but esp to have access to their editing services and gen feedback about pix -dating app - 5 stars for having the Vida team set-up my profile for each app. Lovely process, they helped me craft my answers to the many questions and then posted them. > -managing dating apps - zero stars - and after all of the above it went down hill pretty quickly. I'm very introverted and a "later dater", so having Vida screen for possible candidates and send soft ball questions to get the ball rolling sounded like a dream...and it was for about 2 days and then the "writing team" started making up info about me. My acct manager tried to assure me that the misinformation wouldn't matter as the potential date wouldn't care. I'm old school about a few things and the true and correct info about yourself is the basis of any relationship, so this felt like lying to me. I didn't appreciate the brush off by the account manager and was way out of my comfort zone when the bad info was repeated at least one more time to the same person...and new misinformation was created. Unfortunately, all of this could have been avoided by just asking me what my answer was to things like what city did you grow up in? The writing team decided to punt and say I grew up on the west side of my state, when in reality I grew up in a big city on the east side of the state(try explaining that on a coffee date). Why did I move to my current location? The writing team decided it was to be near family, unfortunately all my family lives at least 500 miles from my current location - this info was repeated twice to one possible candidate. The correct answer is I moved for work and friends in the area. Within the first wk I asked the Vida team to stop working w/ my account as I was very uncomfortable w/ the lack of communication w/ me and the delay in the writing team correcting the misinformation. For the money, correction to these issues should have been a no brainer. You may be comfortable w/ these kinds of miscommunications, I'm not, when I meet someone new at a party, church, etc I'm listening deeply to who they are, what is important to them and will circle back to the info they have given about themselves. I'm not going to continue a relationship w/ someone who has given me bad info about the city they were raised in, why they have moved to my town, etc. > -in tiny print in the Vida contract it lists the opportunity for mediation if you have an issue w/ their services. I've requested mediation at least twice and have gotten no where. >Oct 2025 Update - I was contacted by the Client Manager very soon after this review posted. I appreciated the quick response and her commitment to remedy what was a difficult situation for me. She offered a very reasonable solution to the situation, to which I am most appreciative.

It wasn't clear when I signed on with the salesperson that a matchmaker was going to pretend to be me to potential dates on well known sites. I'm sure fine by most but this makes me uncomfortable. But by the time I put the pieces together, my money was handed over. I'm using them for profile building though since the people are so nice.

Sounds great until you pay the subscription. During the initial phonecall - the person I got to speak with sounded like she cares, understands and is very much willing to help. After that - nothing. As in, it took them A MONTH to just fill in my profile. You don't get to communicate directly with the "ghostwriters" or the people actually creating your profile. Null results after 2 paid months. They offered one more month free - but same thing: no results. I've had better luck on my own. 2 stars for trying. This isn't a scam, it's like, I feel they kinda try to do deliver, but it just didn't work for me.

I believe that the most useful review would be giving a sample of VIDA’s work. To give an idea of what to expect from the conversations they'll have, and how they might differ from your own, here is one where I had started the conversation and they then took it over, to illustrate any differences in quality between my messaging and their’s. Me: Hey, I’m from [state] too, I grew up in [town]! You? Her: What a small world. That’s where I’m from too. Which part? 😋 Me: Oh awesome!! I went to [school] for Middle School and [school] for high school! Which high school were you in? I lived really close to [local spot] Her: I lived out in the country on the border with [town] so I went to [school] Me: Oh cool! I lived near [that same town]ish when I first moved there – [road name] Road! What brought you down to [our current state]? Her: I got out of the navy and decided to stay. Hbu? This is the part where VIDA takes over for me. VIDA: Sorry, been busy with work! That’s really cool about the Navy, how was that? After college I was looking to move to a place with more opportunity career wise. I decided on [city] and got a good job, so I moved! Haha. Her: It’s all good and it was alright. Happy to be in the civilian world nowadays VIDA: That makes sense, seems like it would be more chill on this side of things. What’re you up to for this long weekend? Anything exciting going on? :) [Distance of a day goes without reply] VIDA: Isn’t it my job to be the strong and silent type? ;) Her: Sorry I’ve been exhausted from working and forgot to check this yesterday 😭 VIDA: Oh no worries at all! There are certainly better things to get up to than check Tinder 😂 Would you want to leave you number and we can talk that way/plan a time to meet sometime soon? [Distance of three days goes without reply] VIDA: Have my charms rendered you speechless already? ;) [Side note, I think this is a really great line to restart a conversation!] Her: No I just suck at replying 😂 VIDA: Haha, that’s fair 😂 Would you want to drop the endless small talk and plan a time to meet sometime soon? Her: I would like that 😋 VIDA: Great! Let’s meet sometime in the next week! Which days and times work best for you? 😊 Her: I’m probably not gunna be free until Saturday VIDA: Saturday works great for me! Would you want to leave your number to sort out the details closer to the day? [Almost a week goes by] VIDA: Would you be down for drinks tomorrow evening? [She does not send another message] So, you can decide for yourself whether this seems like something you would want. To give my personal opinion, I found VIDA underwhelming. I expected to be WOWed by expert conversationalists, but to me their approach seemed to be very boring smalltalk followed by excessively early insistence on getting someone's number. In the hyper-competitive world of dating apps, you need to stand out, and VIDA just simply didn't seem to do that. This appeared to be reflected in the results. With VIDA for one month I got no dates. They got me two numbers, one of which never responded to me. I think VIDA could be helpful if you're someone who is having a lot of trouble talking on these apps, but for most people you can probably do just as well or better yourself. Their profile writing was somewhat helpful. I didn’t feel a wow factor there either honestly and you can get the same for much much less on Fiverr.