Steph
nearly ghosted, then actually ghosted, after tech issues that worsened symptoms
TL:DR; nearly ghosted, tech issues that worsened symptoms, then actually ghosted. I made an appointment, very eager for support and help managing a lot of care. When I first signed on at the scheduled time, there was a 5 minute countdown, insinuating the provider would be 5 minutes late. After that time passed, a message said they were coming, but with no estimate of how long. Because there had been a previous countdown, the change made me suspect no one was going to actually arrive. This created a lot of frustration, confusion, and anxiety going into the appointment. I waited for over 30 minutes and was just about to hang up the video call when she finally signed in. I think there must be a better way. At least give people a heads up they may be waiting 30 minutes or more and haven’t just been ghosted. Once she joined the call, we had tech issues. My camera and mic permissions were a problem, so she had to call me and tell me to use Chrome. I do not use Google products for privacy reasons, and don’t have this installed. Since I was already flustered and couldn’t concentrate on trying to deal with installing a new browser when the appointment was already running so far behind, I just used a different browser (I think Firefox). Then I couldn’t join because I had previously joined in the first browser, so she had to change some settings so I could finally join the call and be seen and heard. However, the entire appointment, both my and her videos were flickering and flashing. There were already so many issues and delays, I just explained to her this was happening why I would be mostly looking away, and asked we just continue since it was nearly 40 minutes past my scheduled time and we were just getting starting. It was a relatively short appointment going over my (extensive) history, but I was distracted and the flickering video started to cause nausea and triggered my visual snow syndrome which lasted for about an hour after the visit. The doctor herself was attentive and lovely and reassuring about the help an advocate could provide. I explained that because of my limitations and demands in my life that make phone calls hard, I find email or portal messages easiest to communicate, and she assured me this would be no problem. Shortly after the visit, I got an email from Solace asking for my schedule to set up an appointment with an advocate. I responded with my schedule and the openings I had available. 2 days later I had heard nothing, but my schedule had changed by then, so I sent a follow up email with the changes and expressing I was motivated to get this scheduled soon. It’s now been 10 days since my intake appointment and the only email I’ve gotten about scheduling with an advocate. The whole reason I am in need of this type of service is that I don’t have to capacity to be constantly calling around and trying to get a response from offices and businesses. I’m deeply disappointed. Don’t promise help to vulnerable people who are already exploited and abandoned and victims of broken systems.
Response from Solace HealthJul 28, 2026
We're so sorry for everything you went through here, the delays, the tech issues, and especially the visual snow symptoms that were triggered afterward, and we're sorry to hear this happened right when you were reaching out specifically because you don't have the capacity for this kind of runaround. We want to be transparent with you, on our end we did not receive the emails you sent regarding your schedule. We're going to have our support team reach out to you directly as soon as possible to get this sorted out and make it right.




