Love At First FightReviews of loveatfirstfight.com

Bruce, I'm 72, a retired educator, mom of three daughters and a grandmother, married/divorced twice. My early life was filled with conflict, my adult life very similar. I have seen 17 therapists over the course of my life, many only once (bad fit), trying to find answers. Went through Marriage Encounter. Worked for years with a spiritual director. Read a ton of self-help books. I put a lot of effort into my own personal growth to the point of being very capable of making my own happiness. In 2014 I married for the third time, the love of my life. We met at 14, went our separate ways because we were forced apart by my mother. Think "The Notebook" with a different ending. Being with him again was a dream come true. He lost his wife suddenly two years before we met again late in life, and his grown daughters resolved to punish us, and me in particular. Our conflicts began the moment we met again and have recently accelerated to the point of us both believing this is just too much. I saw you speak about the Conflict Cure on Facebook. I've grown very skeptical that any counseling could help, and my husband is adamant against it. Your straightforward, honest, heartfelt demeanor got my attention and gained just enough of my trust to try again. I signed up thinking that maybe I could learn something new, especially when I heard you say that it could make a difference if I did this alone. I haven't even scratched the surface in terms of the exercises you recommend, but I feel as if something in me has shifted. Here's what has helped me so far (and I'm still two classes away from finishing the course), and I have to preface this by saying that I thought I'd learned all this already, but evidently I'm hearing it again for the first time! * The schooling about how our minds work, especially about human nature's defensive mode when confronted. * The reminder that we are caught in the history of our unmet childhood needs. * The tools of what you refer to as "softening" towards my husband, little things that are so easy to do. That has been a game-changer. I didn't realize how much my cynicism and bitterness about our fights translated into my language with him and my actions towards him. The past several weeks I actually like myself better! I've become more compassionate and willing to give. He doesn't even realize that I'm taking this class, but his behavior towards me has changed too. That makes complete sense, but life has beat me up so much I stopped believing things could improve. My daughters, who have been witness to my journey, are surprised and happy that I have found something to address our conflict. My newfound happiness is now having a domino effect on the entire family, dare I say, even my stepdaughters. Thank you, Bruce. You are one of a kind, in your teaching style, your compassion, your understanding of human nature and relationships. Take it from someone who has tried for decades to figure this out! I highly recommend your class to anyone at any stage of life/relationship!

This is one of the best courses I’ve ever taken. It’s not just a relationship course, but above all a course designed to help you gain insight into your own emotions and your own coping mechanisms in stressful situations, so that you first learn to understand yourself better and can then view your relationship from that perspective. It’s based on solid principles, not just “quick fixes” to save a relationship.

My husband and I have been married for over 40 years. For reasons too long to get into here, we have established some really bad patterns and had basically resigned ourselves to the constant bickering, fighting and feeling alone. The love was there but the skills to navigate being in a relationship were not. We have been to a myriad of therapists and read numerous books but continued to feel more miserable than happy together. And then we discovered Bruce and his program, The Conflict Cure. Though we’re only maybe a quarter of the way through, we have already felt HUGE changes in our relationship. We are feeling connected again. We are feeling hopeful again. We both really believe that by applying the techniques in this workshop that our remaining years together will be filled with much more happiness than misery. Hey, nothing‘s perfect, right? Thank you, Bruce.

We have learn so much and still learning My partner and I have been on the program for 4 weeks The course is is well structured. I like the homework and being able to watch the video as often as needed. We both have seen a difference we are able to talk instead of fighting. We still have work to do but we already feel the difference in our couple Thank you Bruce

I have learned so much about myself, relationships and strategies to improve communication. Learning from Bruce is fun and he makes it enjoyable too. I look forward to Saturday release's of new content. Give this course a try! You will like it!!!

The team have been very supportive, it’s been a incredibly difficult time for me , they respond in a timely manner with real help, thanks guys I only hope my ex partner takes this opportunity on

This program is the save for relationships. I think the steps are easy to follow and the videos are professional. It's so much content that you can choose what is important for you and if you do just a little your marriage will be better than when you started. It's good for you because you learn to know your self too. I recomend to try it.

Bruce's material is thoroughly research-based, and presented with clarity. His material is appropriately sequential and easy to follow, and the work-sheets fit well with the video presentations. The worksheets require some focused time but worth gold. His material on attachment theory is particularly insightful and proved highly valuable.