Walter S.
Going Deeper with Marni
On the surface, the general idea is that women often want to be approached by a confident man and are receptive, so go for it! However, the deeper issue is that if you want a long term relationship that is loving and mutually respectful, you need to go beyond beauty and assess multiple aspects of authentic compatibility. Like I told my 15 year old granddaughter, you may have good chops, the other person may (chops being looks, a good personality, good work ethic, sociable, etc.) also but you could still be miserable together. Like are there lots of things you can enjoy doing together besides sex? How can you know this without some degree of long term friendship even if the initial chops look promising. This is for the protection and benefit of both persons, not just one. Going into an incompatible relationship isn't going to be fun for either person. So, it's not about confidence as a matter of being in control or not being controlled by the other, but being wise about both wanting a relationship where you both can flourish.



