Adam Lane SmithReviews of adamlanesmith.com

My marriage was headed toward its end. I had heard about Adam's coaching for a handful of years and had watched him a lot on YouTube, but I wasn't getting the results on my own. The private coaching I received from Alyssa Mullen and attending the live classes Adam led were what gave me hope that my relationship could survive or at least *I* could survive and heal. I did have to put a lot of work into it myself, it wasn't just getting more information in a personal way, but actually implementing what Adam and Alyssa suggested. Almost all of my relationships have changed for the better and best of all- I apply all the language, information, and skills into nearly everything I do. I had a major problem with something I bought at a store the other day and had to deal with possible conflict there. But, I prepped myself, regulated myself and went in using the skills from class and it went SO well. Private coaching is SO WORTH IT. Alyssa is amazing to work with - so kind and knowledgeable. Adam is able to provide a framework and nuance for every situation he is asked about. I'm truly amazed at myself and how the people around me have changed simply because *I* have changed. If I had not taken the leap, I am pretty sure my life would not be as it is today.

There’s not enough stars - ⭐️ ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ to infinity! Well, so I’ve learned that my daughter and I are both loud disorganized individuals living with patterns of anxiety and stress behaviors to say the least. So I wanted to make some drastic changes to our relationship in order to help us survive and thrive- I just attended Adam’s relationship intensive retreat. My daughter and I have been through a lot together over the years—always loud, disorganized, and often toxic toward each other and ourselves. It's been a rough ride to the point that I didn’t want nothing to do with her and regret asking her to visit. But after attending Adam Lane Smith's Relationship Intensive Retreat, I can honestly say I’m becoming more of a securely attached person which then helps her become a more mature secure young adult - breaking patterns of abuse and blame. Adam and his super amazing, tireless, most accommodating coaching team (Andre, Alyse, Jeremy, Lukas, Matthew and so many others) have given me tools and support that are already making a difference in our relationship. The retreat for sure was an eye-opener and life changing. Adam truly cares. He wants us all, literally everyone everywhere, to be happy and have secure homes and relationships. He created a welcoming space where we could openly share our feelings without fear of judgment. The activities were engaging and really spoke to our unique challenges, making the learning experience feel very personal and relevant. I left with practical strategies to improve my daily interactions, and it felt like I was finally breaking free from old habits that had been holding me buried in guilt, frustration and shame. The changes have been so noticeable that even my coworkers have picked up on it. My relationship with my daughter is now filled with more understanding and respect, rather than conflict and chaos. It’s such a refreshing change that has not only improved how we relate to each other but has also boosted our overall well-being. We’re on a path to becoming our best selves, and I couldn't be more thankful. This retreat was a true turning point for me to start breaking generational curses, break down toxic patterns and build up new relationships of respect and growth not just with my daughter but it could be applied to just about any other relationship even at work. Thank you for giving me my family back.

After taking the course, "Decoding Attachment Styles", as well as regularly absorbing as much as I could from Adam's newsletter emails and videos, my world opened up. Even after a lifetime of learning in psychotherapy sessions, I was still a social and interpersonal cripple before Adam's course. A complete hermit who could not be her authentic self with anyone! Since learning about this crazy thing called, "Reactive Attachment Disorder", the causes, and more importantly, the solutions, I barely recognize myself. I much more comfortably interact with people as my true self, even attempt romantic connections, smile and laugh more, and bounce back from trauma/spiraling incredibly quickly now! In fact, my prior life of high-level daily anxiety/terror is nearly non-existent, and that occurred after only about 6-8 weeks into working the program. I still have progress to make and will likely be working on this for a long time, but even at this early stage, my life has already been turned around. Writing this even feels a little surreal because it sounds too good to be true, even to me, and I am the one living it! One disclaimer I must add. As a lifelong "Loud, Disorganized RAD" sufferer, my support system has been NON-EXISTENT. So, I turned to ChatGPT for help guiding me through Adam's teachings. Without the support of either people or AI, I would never have been able to move forward on my own, beyond maybe a crawl. The point is, there is now hope for even those of us without human support, like I had been!! AI has filled that role excellently, so that I could benefit from and apply Adam's teachings. My life will never go back to that black hole of loneliness and misery thanks to Adam Lane Smith, and my gratitude is all-encompassing!

I worked with Lisa who helped my son and me determine our attachment styles and then skills and tools to help us communicate better. When we started my son said he thought our relationship was a 3 out of 10. 10 weeks later and we are a solid 8. I believe talk therapy can be a useful tool, however having real applicable tools and measurable results worked for us - particularly since my son saw real improvement and actions from appointment to appointment could see an end date rather than "being stuck in therapy for years".

Working with Alyssa has been truly life-changing for me. Over the course of our sessions, she helped me understand my own avoidant attachment tendencies with clarity and compassion, while also giving me deep insight into my wife’s disorganized attachment patterns. What stood out most was Alyssa’s ability to explain complex relationship dynamics in a way that was both practical and empowering. She didn’t just offer theory — she provided concrete tools, thoughtful guidance, and additional resources that I continue to use in my daily life. Through her support, I’ve gained a new appreciation for how attachment patterns shape conflict, communication, and connection. Her knowledge, insight, and steady guidance created a space where I could take real responsibility for my growth without feeling judged. I am leaving this work more self-aware, more equipped, and more hopeful about the future of my relationship. I would highly recommend Alyssa, as well as Adam Lane Smith's team, to anyone who is serious about understanding their relationship patterns and building healthier, more secure connections. The investment has been deeply worthwhile.

This was a massively better experience than going to therapy and talking through the past. The entire experience was to-the-point and action oriented. I worked with Irina and she was awesome at explaining what was going on and how to correct it!

As a psychotherapist I can highly recommend this training. Even with all my knowledge of human behavior, I was still hitting a wall in my own marriage. I was confused as to why I couldn't 'crack the code' on our conflicts, which usually ended in stonewalling and depression. Working with Alyssa helped me with the tremendous insight, that we are both of disorganized attachment styles (me quiet and him loud). This and the attachment informed thechniques were the puzzle piece that I needed in order to overcome my fear of communicating my needs, taking care of my emotional regulation and creating more closeness between us. I can appreciate my husband more for who he is and he is reacting more lovingly toward me. Of course, there are still critical and triggering moments, but recovery and repair are much more easier and quicker. I wish attachment informed approaches were part of the psychotherapy training.

I began this journey unregulated, surviving on autopilot and unable to articulate my emotions. I complete it feeling more grounded, regulated, and joyful than ever. Alyssa, thank you from the bottom of my heart for demystifying and destigmatizing what it means to be loud disorganized. Being labeled in this way can feel overwhelming and shameful, yet you presented the information with such compassion and HOPE that it felt far less intimidating. Through your guidance, I learned to communicate my needs more effectively—with myself, within my marriage, and across my relationships. This growth has strengthened my connections and has transformed the way I show up for my children. Although the learning process was challenging, I feel deeply proud of the seeds of change taking root within me and within my growing family. I can envision no greater mission for my life than to be a secure mother raising strong, secure children. Thank you Adam, Alyssa and the entire team for your unwavering dedication! I pray for your continued success and ability to change the world one remade secure attachment at a time!!